Kartini, Longing on Dark Light in the Midst

-salim fillah; author of the book 'Agar Bidadari Cemburu Padamu'-

Searching the various studies on related Kartini do with spirituality and Islam, then at least we will find the four points of view;
FIRST: That the Kartini is a pure Java, which was oriented on the spiritual side of what is referred to as Javanese. "As a Javanese who lives in the neighborhood mysticism", writes Artawijaya in his article for VOA-ilsam.com, "Kartini picture about the human relationship with God is also the same: subjects manunggaling gusti. Therefore, in her letters, Kartini wrote of God as "Father." In addition, Kartini also call God by the term "Truth", "Kindness", "Conscience", and "Light", as reflected in his letters the following:

Things ofside the habbit of menstrual

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There are some things that happen outside the habit of menstruation:
     1. Increased or reduced during menstruation.
         For example, a woman is menstruating normally for six days, but suddenlyarrived menstrual lasted until seven days or otherwise, usually menstruationfor seven days, but suddenly sacred in the first six days.
     2. Forward or backward when the arrival of menstruation.

Age and Periodicity of Menstruation

1 - AGE menstruation

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     7 Habits Blood Women
       Menstrual age is usually between 12 to 50 years. And possible a woman is already getting your period before age 12 years, or still get your period after the age of 50 years. It all depends on conditions, environment and climate that influence it.

What is Menstruation and Its Wisdom

1. What is Menstruation

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According to the language, means something menstrual flow. And according to the meaning Personality 'is the blood that occurs naturally in women, not because of an cause, and at a certain time. So the blood of menstruation is normal, not caused by an illness, injury, miscarriage or birth. Therefore Menopause is a normal blood, the blood is different according to the conditions, environment and climate, resulting in significant differences on any women.
 

GOOD BAD ROLE OF HEART

The heart is a very important principle and deep every human being. It played a very significant role in the life all day. The Messenger expressed about the heart as follows:
       'Know ye in the human body contained blood clot. If both then let the whole everything he does and if worse then evil overall behavior. Know ye that it was the heart '

Women and men 'NEED EACH OTHER'

by Syed Abu Hassan Ali Nadawi



 يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ نَفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا 4:1   
         
O men! Fear your Lord Who created you from a single being and out of it created its mate; and out of the two spread many men and women. *1 Fear Allah in Whose name you plead for rights, and heed the ties of kinship. Surely, Allah is ever watchful over you.  (Surah An-Nissa ': 1)
 
         This verse clearly explains the Islamic view about status of the women, the rights and obligation of men and women. First, God explains that free men and women made the same way and they have a similar physical form, as if they derived from a single body. Abnormalities in the body built their bodies cause they go through life with the opportunity.
         Both men and women were created from one soul and the soul divide to two portion,

Between Muslimah and 'Free' Women (Part 2)

      We have share about this topic in previous post. Then we continue with the second part. Here we wrong between Muslim way of life with group such as nun (vicar women) or women who like community ideology 'feminist'.

       For far (vicar woman) life is concentrated to the spiritual bridegroom Jesus and considered mundane happenings trap devil, when Muslim women to worship in addition also God, she was encouraged by what I though to enjoy the pleasures the essential and take responsibility of everyday life. She should receives love and protection of a devoted husband, joy being a mother, wearing clothes that attract and decorated themselves (in the presence of her husband and the family alone - she drip concentrated their affection and praise and flattery rather than others), seized the opportunity responsibility of maintaining the welfare society that he himself is a full member.

Between Muslimah and 'Free' Women (Part 1)

by Fatimah Strange

       Only since recently people realize that there are two types of women. The first group is the 'free' women (Emancipated women) that we encounter every day in the West. Type which one more can be seen on broadcast television or the pages of magazines, new publications relating to events during in Iran,, Afghanistan, Syria and other Muslim countries.

       For the 'free' woman case that the most important for them is to introduce them own to the public. For this purpose they were wearing beautiful clothes, wearing a jaunty tools that excite, worked as a professional that ensure in getting great income and trying effort to obtain a boy friend or a handsome and wealthy husband.

Women in Islam

by Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood
How can anyone justify Islam's treatment of women, when it imprisons Afghans under blue shuttlecock burqas and makes Pakistani girls marry strangers against their will?

How can you respect a religion that forces women into polygamous marriages, mutilates their genitals, forbids them to drive cars and subjects them to the humiliation of "instant" divorce? In fact, none of these practices are Islamic at all.

Anyone wishing to understand Islam must first separate the religion from the cultural norms and style of a society. Female genital mutilation is still practised in certain pockets of Africa and Egypt, but viewed as an inconceivable horror by the vast majority of Muslims. Forced marriages may still take place in certain Indian, Pakistani and Bangladeshi communities, but would be anathema to Muslim women from other backgrounds.

Factors of Degrading Woman Dignity

If we see that the dignity of women is low peaks coming from the factor. It is not the outcome or the form factor of the material as heralded by the fighters fake women's rights.

These factors are:
1 - Lost to remember God
Being too busy with work and outside activity or keep the kids, so do not be surprised if many women are unaware that he had been negligent of the remembrance of Allah. And while this omission is essentially the most dangerous time for themselves, where the devil will direct the passions to play a role. God's Word in the Qoran sura al-Jathiah, verse 23:

Meaning:
"So Did you see the person who desires to make as his Lord and God let astray bytheir knowledge. And Allah has been locked to death of hearing and his heart andput a lid on his eyesight. "
Word of the Prophet : It means:
"No one's perfect faith from you, so that he felt inclined to what I have to say." (History Tarmizi)
Remembrance of Allah not only with the remembrance, but attended the Majlis-Majlis include science, muzakrah or so.
2 - Easy to be fooled by the beauty world
The beauty of the world and the pleasures are many traps women into the trap. Up to now it's not alone, even the devil with easy use to attract men for both with sin and stains. Not the least capable of disobedience to Allah just because the pleasures of the world is too small. God's Word in the Qoran Sura al-An'am:
It means: "And this world is not living but negligence and the actual game and in the Hereafter is better for those who fear Allah, therefore, do not you think."

3 - Easily deceived by lust

4 - Weak faith
5 - Be like pointing

To give you a Happy With Your Husband

1. Do not let your husband looked at in a state you do not. The best woman is a woman who always makes her husband happy.pleasing to watch
2. Let the smile always decorate your lips every perceived by the husband.
3. Get expanding husband's willingness to obey, the extent of your obedience to the husband, as far as was then that she felt your love for him and he will soon be heading your willingness.
4. Choose the appropriate time to rectify mistakes husband.
5. Be you a roomy chest, do not ever mention your husband's shortcomings to others.
6. Amend your husband's fault with all the ability and the love you have, do not try to hurt her feelings.
7. Do not praise another man in front of her husband except religious exist in these men.
8. Don't you justify the negative words from others about your husband.
9. Strive to appear in front of your husband with his favorite works and also his favorite sayings.
10. Give meaning to your husband for him respect and mutual respect in all matters.
11. You should always feel happy to visit to his parents.
12. Don't you show her boredom, if there is a lack of material Keep in mind that what he has given you more than enough.
13. You get used to laugh when he laughs, cry and be sad if he was sad. Because the union will give birth to feelings of love feelings.
14. Shut up and pay attention when he speaks.
15. Do not remind many that you never ask him something. Do not even remind unless you know that it is easy to be reminded.
16. Don't you repeat the mistakes that are not liked by your husband and he does not like to see it.
17. Do not forget when you see your husband pray sunnah at home, you should stand up and go pray behind him. If he is reading, you should sit down to listen.
18. Do not be exaggerated to talk about personal dreams in front of him, but always ask him to mention his personal desires in front of you.
19. Do not think of putting his opinions on every issue, whether small or large. Let your love for him to encourage you prefer opinion.
20. Don't you do shaum Sunnah except with his permission, and do not leave the house except with his knowledge.
21. Keep secrets delivered to you and do not pass it though to both parents.
22. Be careful not to mention that you are a higher degree than the degree of their husbands. It will invite the hatred of you.
23. If one of their parents or sick relatives, then you have an obligation to visit with him.
24. Adjust your household goods favored by your husband.
25. Do not let you leave the house despite being a fight with him.
26. Say boredom and boredom when he had left the house.
27. Accept reason when he canceled his promise to quit with you, because maybe he was forced to meet the call of people who come to him.
28. Avoid the nature of jealousy, jealousy is actually a weapon of destruction.
29. Do not ignore your leader (husband) on the grounds that he has become your husband.
30. Don't you speak with your husband, as though you are holy, and he sinned.
31. Keep your feelings, do not be happy when he is sad and do not cry when he's excited.
32. Expand mentioned before your husband's virtues.
33. To show to your husband that you feel the feeling the husband when he had not reached the goals and objectives.
34. Renew (determination husband) in the event of failure.
35. Stay away from the nature of a lie because it will hurt him .
36. Remind your husband that is always on you do not know (what happened to you) if he did not married you.
37. Say thanks and gratitude when he gives you something.

Source: "Advice to the Muslim", the second part, Majdi Fathi al-Sayyid., Pustaka Arafah,

Preventing Skin Large Pores

By: Rahmi

Got facial skin with large pores such as orange peel, it is very disturbing appearance. This situation usually experienced by those who have oily skin or due to genetic problems.

Whereas in those with dry and normal skin, rarely have this problem. If any, but in a very small percentage.

Caring porous face should be done early, because if delayed until the pores getting bigger will require special care and cost is not small.

The easiest way and can be done at home, is to wash your face with ice. After your face is cleaned with cleaning cosmetics, rub an ice cube gently across the surface of the face.

Ice cubes are believed to remove impurities that clog the pores, do regularly after the activity, especially outdoors because the dirt that clog the pores making increasingly bigger.

In addition to ice, the pores can be minimized by using the masks from natural materials, such as seaweed mask. Facial can also help shrink the pores of the face.

For those whose skin is oily, do facials for two times a month. While the face-to-dry skin, once a month.

For acne prone skin, do the peeling and scrubbing on a regular basis. Do not use cosmetics before pore shrink excessively, avoid all foods that can trigger acne, like greasy food.

Alternatively, large pores can also be minimized by using a laser that provoke regeneration of skin cells from the inside and work under the skin surface making it more effective.

(tr / many sources)

WORKING WORLD FOR MUSLIMAH

Women are human beings as men. Women are part of the male and men are part of the woman, as the Qur'an states:

بَعْضُكُمْ مِنْ بَعْضٍ
(Ali Imran 195)
Humans are creatures who live among his kind is to think and work (activities). If not, then he is not human.
Verily Allah Almighty made man for their charity, even He did not create them but to test who among them the most good deeds. Therefore, women were given the task to do good as men, with a better charity to obtain a reward from Allah Almighty.

Allah says:

فَاسْتَجَابَ لَهُمْ رَبُّهُمْ أَنِّي لَا أُضِيعُ عَمَلَ عَامِلٍ مِنْكُمْ مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنْثَى

So God they allow the application (by saying), "Verily I am not wasting charitable people who labor among you, whether male or female, (because): Ye are members one of another. So the people who emigrated, who was expelled from his hometown, which hurt me on the street, who fought and killed, I certainly would eliminate their mistakes and must I enter them into heaven with rivers flowing beneath a reward from God. And God on his side a good reward. "
(Ali Imran 195)

Anyone who labor well, they will get a reward in the hereafter and good reward in the world:

مَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنْثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَنُحْيِيَنَّهُ حَيَاةً طَيِّبَةً وَلَنَجْزِيَنَّهُمْ أَجْرَهُمْ بِأَحْسَنِ مَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ

Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, being a believer, verily to him will We give a good life and indeed will we give reply to them with a better reward than what they have done.
(An Nahl 97)

in addition, she is also a half of human society, and Islam have never been described to ignore half the members of the society and set them frozen and umpuh, then deprived of life, destroyed his good and not given anything.
It's just that the main task and the first lady that is not disputed anymore is to educate new generations. They are prepared by God for the task, both physically and mentally, and this glorious task can't be forgotten or ignored by the material and cultural factors whatsoever. Because no one can replace the role of women in the task of this magnitude, that it belongs the future of the people depend, and with it also manifested the greatest wealth of riches in the form of humans (human resources).
Hope God gives grace to the poet of the Nile, namely Hafidh Ibrahim, when he said:

Mother is a School, educational institutions
If you prepare well
Then you have prepares a good nation by the principal base.

Among the activities of women are take care of home, make her husband happy and happy family forming a tranquil peaceful, full of love and affection. Until well-known in the proverb "the good service of a woman against her husband is considered as jihad fi sabilillah".
However, it does not mean that women work outside the home was forbidden Personality '. Because no one can forbid something without nash syaraa' and saheeh of the legend and clear instructions. In addition, basically all things and all actions that may, as long as there are no texts which forbid doing so.
Based on this principle it is a woman allowed to work or perform activities. In fact, sometimes he is charged with voluntary or mandatory charges when he needed it. For example, because she is a widow or a divorced husband, while no individual or family who bear the economic needs and he alone can make an attempt to cover himself from asking asking or waiting for a helping hand to others.
In addition, sometimes the family needs her to work, like helping her husband, children or relatives caring for children brother who was a child, or helping his father who was old. As the story of two daughters of a sheikh who are elderly who keep the sheep of his father, as in the Qur'an

وَلَمَّا وَرَدَ مَاءَ مَدْيَنَ وَجَدَ عَلَيْهِ أُمَّةً مِنَ النَّاسِ يَسْقُونَ وَوَجَدَ مِنْ دُونِهِمُ امْرَأتَيْنِ تَذُودَانِ قَالَ مَا خَطْبُكُمَا قَالَتَا لَا نَسْقِي حَتَّى يُصْدِرَ الرِّعَاءُ وَأَبُونَا شَيْخٌ كَبِيرٌ

And when he arrived at the source of domestic water of Midian he found there a group of men who are to drink (their flocks), and he found the back of the crowd, two women who were inhibited (flocks). Moses said: "Did you mean (in doing so)?" The second woman replied: "We were not able to drink (our cattle), before the shepherd-herdsmen were repatriated (flocks), our father is an old man who had advanced in years".
(Al Qashash 23)

also narrated that Asma 'bint Abu Bakr used to help her husband Zubair bin Awwam in the care of his horse, mashing grains to be cooked, these grains carry over his head from the garden that is far from Medina.
Communities themselves sometimes require women's work, such as in treating and caring orng women, teaching children putrid and other activities that require a special power of women. So the main thing is women muamalah with fellow women, not men.
While the receipt men working in the sector of women in some ways is because in an emergency situation that should be restricted in accordance with the needs, not to be used as a general rule.
If a woman is allowed to work, then tied with a few conditions, namely:
Let her work itself is prescribed. This means that the work was not forbidden or can bring something forbidden, like the women who work to serve man, or woman becomes special secretary to a director who by reason of their activities often seclusion (tandem),
courtesy in meet a Muslim woman when out of the house.
Women's clothing outdoors
1. Thickness
2. Width
3. Closing the Aurat
وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِن َّو لَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَائِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ
And let them cover with a cloth veil to her chest, and not to show adornment except to their husbands, or fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons or their husbands sons, or brothers and their brother, or the sons of their brothers, or sons of their sisters, or women of Islam, or the slaves that they have, or the servants of men who have no desire (for women) or children children who do not understand about women's genitalia.
4. Not like a man
5. Not invite the attention of men
6. Motif and color
7. No sound of shoes
وَقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَائِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

Say to the believing woman: "Let them gaze, and maintain his cock, and let them show her jewelry, except that (usually) appear thereof. And let them cover with a cloth veil to her chest, and not to show adornment except to their husbands, or fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or sons their husbands, sons, or brothers and their brothers, or sons of their brothers, or sons of their sisters, or women of Islam, or the slaves that they have, or maid-servant men who have no desire (for women) or children who do not understand about women's genitalia. And let them not strike his foot for jewelry in mind they hide. And bertaubatlah you all to Allah, O men who believe that you are lucky . (An-Nur: 31)

8. Firmly in speech
يَانِسَاءَ النَّبِيِّ لَسْتُنَّ كَأَحَدٍ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِنِ اتَّقَيْتُنَّ فَلَا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلًا مَعْرُوفًا
O wives of the Prophet, you all are not like other women, if you're cautious. You shall not be subject in speaking so berkeinginanlah people who have the disease in his heart, and say good words, (Al-Ahzab: 32)

9. When you use perfume not to invite defamation
صحيح ابن خزيمة ج: 3 ص: 91
عن أبي موسى الأشعري عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال أيما امرأة استعطرت فمرت على قوم ليجدوا ريحها فهي زانية وكل عين زانية

10. Road or perform movements that's perfectly natural.
jobs or tasks that do not neglect other obligations obligations that should not be ignored, such as obligations to her husband or her children is an obligation first and main task.

I'm beautiful Today

Do you know, I'm more beautiful today! Really, I'm more beautiful! More beautiful than yesterday, from yesterday again, and from yesterday, yesterday again. Let's see, my forehead is wrinkled by the mind and pain like few days ago. My lips are not pursed by the indignation and anger like yesterday. My face is no longer a full load like time passing. My body is no longer sluggish due to desperation and lost hope.

Really, I am more beautiful today! Look, my eyes lit up by the excitement. My lips split wide by a smile of sincerity. My cheeks flushed by the spirit of hope. Veins relaxed my face radiates an aura of resignation. And it makes my face was beaming. Really, I'm beautiful today!

It was a week I laughed a lot, dancing and singing, enjoying life and not let problems affect mood. Ah, lovely myself for it. It was a week I tried a lot of greeting and forgive all the brothers. And that has made me more beautiful today. It was a week I tried a little more charity on others. Now I feel beautiful in return. Already a quarter of the moon I'm trying more grateful for every gift of the Divine. And now I feel God's blessings have added to it to make me beautiful.

I'm so happy! And happy that makes me feel more beautiful course.

***

There are times when we hate ourselves. There are times when we do not like what we do. There are times when we make mistakes. There are times when we collapsed in pain. There are times when we are drowning in grief. There are times when we do not understand why life goes not as we imagine. There are times when the going gets heavy so we are feeling. Until our attitude was carried away by feelings.

Until we take a step without consideration. Action taken was a spontaneous reaction. A result that remains then only regret and deeper slump. And do thee? All of that would cause the appearance and look like we are getting worse.

So be happy when we can get through the days like that with elegance. When we could not help myself toward something that we want. When we can face all problems peacefully.

When we managed to conquer the disaster and the barriers causing grief. Life is not running as we want, because it is past time that does not meneyenangkan is a happy thing. For example, I was a very emotional. Is happy for me when in many ways lately I can dampen my emotions.

And it makes me feel beautiful. I am a very expressive, so that any feelings that are stored in the liver would appear clearly on body language. So really happy when in many ways then I can hide the real feelings and can still look stable.

And really, I feel more beautiful because of it. It is fun when I did not panic, though originally I was an easy to panic. So really fun, when I can control all the emotions, thoughts and feelings so successfully overcome the self. How happy when we beat ourselves. When I can do it, then this is the biggest achievement of my life.

Until then the failure we have been through is nothing in vain. As long as we do not lose the lessons of the failures we experience, all that would be evidence of learning the history of life. Prophet said, actually the best is not a Muslim who never make mistakes, but they are every time you make a mistake admit it, accept it and then tried to get up to fix it, again and again. No need no heartache, there is no need really disappointed because for a Muslim everything is fine, as long as he is grateful to each get pleasure and patient when calamity strikes.

Therefore, proudly tell you, I'm more beautiful today. Are you also? Hey, do not forget, remind me if you see me worse tomorrow!


Azimah Rahayu
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