Women in Islam

by Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood
How can anyone justify Islam's treatment of women, when it imprisons Afghans under blue shuttlecock burqas and makes Pakistani girls marry strangers against their will?

How can you respect a religion that forces women into polygamous marriages, mutilates their genitals, forbids them to drive cars and subjects them to the humiliation of "instant" divorce? In fact, none of these practices are Islamic at all.

Anyone wishing to understand Islam must first separate the religion from the cultural norms and style of a society. Female genital mutilation is still practised in certain pockets of Africa and Egypt, but viewed as an inconceivable horror by the vast majority of Muslims. Forced marriages may still take place in certain Indian, Pakistani and Bangladeshi communities, but would be anathema to Muslim women from other backgrounds.

Factors of Degrading Woman Dignity

If we see that the dignity of women is low peaks coming from the factor. It is not the outcome or the form factor of the material as heralded by the fighters fake women's rights.

These factors are:
1 - Lost to remember God
Being too busy with work and outside activity or keep the kids, so do not be surprised if many women are unaware that he had been negligent of the remembrance of Allah. And while this omission is essentially the most dangerous time for themselves, where the devil will direct the passions to play a role. God's Word in the Qoran sura al-Jathiah, verse 23:

Meaning:
"So Did you see the person who desires to make as his Lord and God let astray bytheir knowledge. And Allah has been locked to death of hearing and his heart andput a lid on his eyesight. "
Word of the Prophet : It means:
"No one's perfect faith from you, so that he felt inclined to what I have to say." (History Tarmizi)
Remembrance of Allah not only with the remembrance, but attended the Majlis-Majlis include science, muzakrah or so.
2 - Easy to be fooled by the beauty world
The beauty of the world and the pleasures are many traps women into the trap. Up to now it's not alone, even the devil with easy use to attract men for both with sin and stains. Not the least capable of disobedience to Allah just because the pleasures of the world is too small. God's Word in the Qoran Sura al-An'am:
It means: "And this world is not living but negligence and the actual game and in the Hereafter is better for those who fear Allah, therefore, do not you think."

3 - Easily deceived by lust

4 - Weak faith
5 - Be like pointing

To give you a Happy With Your Husband

1. Do not let your husband looked at in a state you do not. The best woman is a woman who always makes her husband happy.pleasing to watch
2. Let the smile always decorate your lips every perceived by the husband.
3. Get expanding husband's willingness to obey, the extent of your obedience to the husband, as far as was then that she felt your love for him and he will soon be heading your willingness.
4. Choose the appropriate time to rectify mistakes husband.
5. Be you a roomy chest, do not ever mention your husband's shortcomings to others.
6. Amend your husband's fault with all the ability and the love you have, do not try to hurt her feelings.
7. Do not praise another man in front of her husband except religious exist in these men.
8. Don't you justify the negative words from others about your husband.
9. Strive to appear in front of your husband with his favorite works and also his favorite sayings.
10. Give meaning to your husband for him respect and mutual respect in all matters.
11. You should always feel happy to visit to his parents.
12. Don't you show her boredom, if there is a lack of material Keep in mind that what he has given you more than enough.
13. You get used to laugh when he laughs, cry and be sad if he was sad. Because the union will give birth to feelings of love feelings.
14. Shut up and pay attention when he speaks.
15. Do not remind many that you never ask him something. Do not even remind unless you know that it is easy to be reminded.
16. Don't you repeat the mistakes that are not liked by your husband and he does not like to see it.
17. Do not forget when you see your husband pray sunnah at home, you should stand up and go pray behind him. If he is reading, you should sit down to listen.
18. Do not be exaggerated to talk about personal dreams in front of him, but always ask him to mention his personal desires in front of you.
19. Do not think of putting his opinions on every issue, whether small or large. Let your love for him to encourage you prefer opinion.
20. Don't you do shaum Sunnah except with his permission, and do not leave the house except with his knowledge.
21. Keep secrets delivered to you and do not pass it though to both parents.
22. Be careful not to mention that you are a higher degree than the degree of their husbands. It will invite the hatred of you.
23. If one of their parents or sick relatives, then you have an obligation to visit with him.
24. Adjust your household goods favored by your husband.
25. Do not let you leave the house despite being a fight with him.
26. Say boredom and boredom when he had left the house.
27. Accept reason when he canceled his promise to quit with you, because maybe he was forced to meet the call of people who come to him.
28. Avoid the nature of jealousy, jealousy is actually a weapon of destruction.
29. Do not ignore your leader (husband) on the grounds that he has become your husband.
30. Don't you speak with your husband, as though you are holy, and he sinned.
31. Keep your feelings, do not be happy when he is sad and do not cry when he's excited.
32. Expand mentioned before your husband's virtues.
33. To show to your husband that you feel the feeling the husband when he had not reached the goals and objectives.
34. Renew (determination husband) in the event of failure.
35. Stay away from the nature of a lie because it will hurt him .
36. Remind your husband that is always on you do not know (what happened to you) if he did not married you.
37. Say thanks and gratitude when he gives you something.

Source: "Advice to the Muslim", the second part, Majdi Fathi al-Sayyid., Pustaka Arafah,

Preventing Skin Large Pores

By: Rahmi

Got facial skin with large pores such as orange peel, it is very disturbing appearance. This situation usually experienced by those who have oily skin or due to genetic problems.

Whereas in those with dry and normal skin, rarely have this problem. If any, but in a very small percentage.

Caring porous face should be done early, because if delayed until the pores getting bigger will require special care and cost is not small.

The easiest way and can be done at home, is to wash your face with ice. After your face is cleaned with cleaning cosmetics, rub an ice cube gently across the surface of the face.

Ice cubes are believed to remove impurities that clog the pores, do regularly after the activity, especially outdoors because the dirt that clog the pores making increasingly bigger.

In addition to ice, the pores can be minimized by using the masks from natural materials, such as seaweed mask. Facial can also help shrink the pores of the face.

For those whose skin is oily, do facials for two times a month. While the face-to-dry skin, once a month.

For acne prone skin, do the peeling and scrubbing on a regular basis. Do not use cosmetics before pore shrink excessively, avoid all foods that can trigger acne, like greasy food.

Alternatively, large pores can also be minimized by using a laser that provoke regeneration of skin cells from the inside and work under the skin surface making it more effective.

(tr / many sources)

WORKING WORLD FOR MUSLIMAH

Women are human beings as men. Women are part of the male and men are part of the woman, as the Qur'an states:

بَعْضُكُمْ مِنْ بَعْضٍ
(Ali Imran 195)
Humans are creatures who live among his kind is to think and work (activities). If not, then he is not human.
Verily Allah Almighty made man for their charity, even He did not create them but to test who among them the most good deeds. Therefore, women were given the task to do good as men, with a better charity to obtain a reward from Allah Almighty.

Allah says:

فَاسْتَجَابَ لَهُمْ رَبُّهُمْ أَنِّي لَا أُضِيعُ عَمَلَ عَامِلٍ مِنْكُمْ مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنْثَى

So God they allow the application (by saying), "Verily I am not wasting charitable people who labor among you, whether male or female, (because): Ye are members one of another. So the people who emigrated, who was expelled from his hometown, which hurt me on the street, who fought and killed, I certainly would eliminate their mistakes and must I enter them into heaven with rivers flowing beneath a reward from God. And God on his side a good reward. "
(Ali Imran 195)

Anyone who labor well, they will get a reward in the hereafter and good reward in the world:

مَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنْثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَنُحْيِيَنَّهُ حَيَاةً طَيِّبَةً وَلَنَجْزِيَنَّهُمْ أَجْرَهُمْ بِأَحْسَنِ مَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ

Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, being a believer, verily to him will We give a good life and indeed will we give reply to them with a better reward than what they have done.
(An Nahl 97)

in addition, she is also a half of human society, and Islam have never been described to ignore half the members of the society and set them frozen and umpuh, then deprived of life, destroyed his good and not given anything.
It's just that the main task and the first lady that is not disputed anymore is to educate new generations. They are prepared by God for the task, both physically and mentally, and this glorious task can't be forgotten or ignored by the material and cultural factors whatsoever. Because no one can replace the role of women in the task of this magnitude, that it belongs the future of the people depend, and with it also manifested the greatest wealth of riches in the form of humans (human resources).
Hope God gives grace to the poet of the Nile, namely Hafidh Ibrahim, when he said:

Mother is a School, educational institutions
If you prepare well
Then you have prepares a good nation by the principal base.

Among the activities of women are take care of home, make her husband happy and happy family forming a tranquil peaceful, full of love and affection. Until well-known in the proverb "the good service of a woman against her husband is considered as jihad fi sabilillah".
However, it does not mean that women work outside the home was forbidden Personality '. Because no one can forbid something without nash syaraa' and saheeh of the legend and clear instructions. In addition, basically all things and all actions that may, as long as there are no texts which forbid doing so.
Based on this principle it is a woman allowed to work or perform activities. In fact, sometimes he is charged with voluntary or mandatory charges when he needed it. For example, because she is a widow or a divorced husband, while no individual or family who bear the economic needs and he alone can make an attempt to cover himself from asking asking or waiting for a helping hand to others.
In addition, sometimes the family needs her to work, like helping her husband, children or relatives caring for children brother who was a child, or helping his father who was old. As the story of two daughters of a sheikh who are elderly who keep the sheep of his father, as in the Qur'an

وَلَمَّا وَرَدَ مَاءَ مَدْيَنَ وَجَدَ عَلَيْهِ أُمَّةً مِنَ النَّاسِ يَسْقُونَ وَوَجَدَ مِنْ دُونِهِمُ امْرَأتَيْنِ تَذُودَانِ قَالَ مَا خَطْبُكُمَا قَالَتَا لَا نَسْقِي حَتَّى يُصْدِرَ الرِّعَاءُ وَأَبُونَا شَيْخٌ كَبِيرٌ

And when he arrived at the source of domestic water of Midian he found there a group of men who are to drink (their flocks), and he found the back of the crowd, two women who were inhibited (flocks). Moses said: "Did you mean (in doing so)?" The second woman replied: "We were not able to drink (our cattle), before the shepherd-herdsmen were repatriated (flocks), our father is an old man who had advanced in years".
(Al Qashash 23)

also narrated that Asma 'bint Abu Bakr used to help her husband Zubair bin Awwam in the care of his horse, mashing grains to be cooked, these grains carry over his head from the garden that is far from Medina.
Communities themselves sometimes require women's work, such as in treating and caring orng women, teaching children putrid and other activities that require a special power of women. So the main thing is women muamalah with fellow women, not men.
While the receipt men working in the sector of women in some ways is because in an emergency situation that should be restricted in accordance with the needs, not to be used as a general rule.
If a woman is allowed to work, then tied with a few conditions, namely:
Let her work itself is prescribed. This means that the work was not forbidden or can bring something forbidden, like the women who work to serve man, or woman becomes special secretary to a director who by reason of their activities often seclusion (tandem),
courtesy in meet a Muslim woman when out of the house.
Women's clothing outdoors
1. Thickness
2. Width
3. Closing the Aurat
وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِن َّو لَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَائِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ
And let them cover with a cloth veil to her chest, and not to show adornment except to their husbands, or fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons or their husbands sons, or brothers and their brother, or the sons of their brothers, or sons of their sisters, or women of Islam, or the slaves that they have, or the servants of men who have no desire (for women) or children children who do not understand about women's genitalia.
4. Not like a man
5. Not invite the attention of men
6. Motif and color
7. No sound of shoes
وَقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَائِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

Say to the believing woman: "Let them gaze, and maintain his cock, and let them show her jewelry, except that (usually) appear thereof. And let them cover with a cloth veil to her chest, and not to show adornment except to their husbands, or fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or sons their husbands, sons, or brothers and their brothers, or sons of their brothers, or sons of their sisters, or women of Islam, or the slaves that they have, or maid-servant men who have no desire (for women) or children who do not understand about women's genitalia. And let them not strike his foot for jewelry in mind they hide. And bertaubatlah you all to Allah, O men who believe that you are lucky . (An-Nur: 31)

8. Firmly in speech
يَانِسَاءَ النَّبِيِّ لَسْتُنَّ كَأَحَدٍ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِنِ اتَّقَيْتُنَّ فَلَا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلًا مَعْرُوفًا
O wives of the Prophet, you all are not like other women, if you're cautious. You shall not be subject in speaking so berkeinginanlah people who have the disease in his heart, and say good words, (Al-Ahzab: 32)

9. When you use perfume not to invite defamation
صحيح ابن خزيمة ج: 3 ص: 91
عن أبي موسى الأشعري عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال أيما امرأة استعطرت فمرت على قوم ليجدوا ريحها فهي زانية وكل عين زانية

10. Road or perform movements that's perfectly natural.
jobs or tasks that do not neglect other obligations obligations that should not be ignored, such as obligations to her husband or her children is an obligation first and main task.

I'm beautiful Today

Do you know, I'm more beautiful today! Really, I'm more beautiful! More beautiful than yesterday, from yesterday again, and from yesterday, yesterday again. Let's see, my forehead is wrinkled by the mind and pain like few days ago. My lips are not pursed by the indignation and anger like yesterday. My face is no longer a full load like time passing. My body is no longer sluggish due to desperation and lost hope.

Really, I am more beautiful today! Look, my eyes lit up by the excitement. My lips split wide by a smile of sincerity. My cheeks flushed by the spirit of hope. Veins relaxed my face radiates an aura of resignation. And it makes my face was beaming. Really, I'm beautiful today!

It was a week I laughed a lot, dancing and singing, enjoying life and not let problems affect mood. Ah, lovely myself for it. It was a week I tried a lot of greeting and forgive all the brothers. And that has made me more beautiful today. It was a week I tried a little more charity on others. Now I feel beautiful in return. Already a quarter of the moon I'm trying more grateful for every gift of the Divine. And now I feel God's blessings have added to it to make me beautiful.

I'm so happy! And happy that makes me feel more beautiful course.

***

There are times when we hate ourselves. There are times when we do not like what we do. There are times when we make mistakes. There are times when we collapsed in pain. There are times when we are drowning in grief. There are times when we do not understand why life goes not as we imagine. There are times when the going gets heavy so we are feeling. Until our attitude was carried away by feelings.

Until we take a step without consideration. Action taken was a spontaneous reaction. A result that remains then only regret and deeper slump. And do thee? All of that would cause the appearance and look like we are getting worse.

So be happy when we can get through the days like that with elegance. When we could not help myself toward something that we want. When we can face all problems peacefully.

When we managed to conquer the disaster and the barriers causing grief. Life is not running as we want, because it is past time that does not meneyenangkan is a happy thing. For example, I was a very emotional. Is happy for me when in many ways lately I can dampen my emotions.

And it makes me feel beautiful. I am a very expressive, so that any feelings that are stored in the liver would appear clearly on body language. So really happy when in many ways then I can hide the real feelings and can still look stable.

And really, I feel more beautiful because of it. It is fun when I did not panic, though originally I was an easy to panic. So really fun, when I can control all the emotions, thoughts and feelings so successfully overcome the self. How happy when we beat ourselves. When I can do it, then this is the biggest achievement of my life.

Until then the failure we have been through is nothing in vain. As long as we do not lose the lessons of the failures we experience, all that would be evidence of learning the history of life. Prophet said, actually the best is not a Muslim who never make mistakes, but they are every time you make a mistake admit it, accept it and then tried to get up to fix it, again and again. No need no heartache, there is no need really disappointed because for a Muslim everything is fine, as long as he is grateful to each get pleasure and patient when calamity strikes.

Therefore, proudly tell you, I'm more beautiful today. Are you also? Hey, do not forget, remind me if you see me worse tomorrow!


Azimah Rahayu
azi_75@yahoo.com

Successfully Rich, Failed Happy

Maybe because it was born and raised in the village, almost every day there is a desire to see the nuances of the countryside. There was the sound of birds, there are wide spaces and wide where the eye could see free, no clean air from pollution, there are honest men and innocent, and most importantly there are human beings with lives of a very light load. My little friends in the village first, the morning went to school by walking away with no slippers, day after school just take the scythe looking grass for cows pet, rather a little afternoon nap, and sleep soundly at night. That's the life cycle with a light load.

In a sheet of beautiful memories that are still stored in memory, along with a small friend we both sold ice around turns carrying a small flask. In villages that are not too broad, we took turns shouting: "Ice....". It costs money to sell ice is not much, but the quality of happiness that were presented when walking around the village while screaming this, beautifully stored in memory. In fact, beat the memories boarded the plane in business class, sleep in five star hotels in Singapore there, or washed by hand clapping praise of thousands of people.

I have a friend who asked, where the beauty of memories and selling ice tour? This is where the uniqueness of the flavor, he inserts neatly into a memory album can be explained by the bridge without the words anywhere. In fact, little friend of my partner sold ice had forgotten about the beauty of this life before.

The more so when Mom and Dad are gone. Village not only save the childhood memories. But also framed the beautiful traces of love parents. In the village my mother also had a simple advise: "With that poor people should give more". In the village, too, left traces of the palm of my father who bequeathed love handwriting to me: "Remember the Lord, then give thanks to God."

Decades after the sweet memories left, and his life has changed the face of a very radical. Where rural air and other luxuries have been replaced by hectic schedule, flying here and there every week, schedule meetings, teaching and so consultants who always like chasing from behind. There are many things that once did not may have now become everyday life. First, the money of five hundred rupiahs is like a dream, now to pay parking still lacking. In the past, saw the plane flying for dragonflies in the air like looking at heaven that only meet after death, now he became a daily vehicle equipped with things that are completely normal. In the past, seeing people eat meat with rice roof here and there of course a luxury. Now, he has been replaced with everyday life as a vegetarian.

In terms of gratitude, now it comes an abundance of gratitude here and there. Something that does not been had first because of stupidity. But there are very noticeable different. In the crush of ignorance and poverty, rural-style first, everywhere meeting people live happily with a very light load. No-one rush in the morning, no traffic jam that often ended in screams, no city-style politics of mass mobilization. It was just living life as an ordinary person, grow with the times, and framed by golden rays of happiness.

I do not anti-city and not anti-people city. The proof of this writing when I still lived in Jakarta. And there are many friends in Jakarta happy here. There are happy with Bob Sadino shorts everywhere regardless of the forum. There is Mohammad Sobary who has not lost anything despite the demonstration of its employees. Hari Darmawan There are still vibrant despite losing some of its shares. And still there is more.

Difficult to deny, in the everyday, the city filled with people who managed to become rich, but failed to be happy. Too much evidence to be presented here. And it's not my authority to be a prosecutor and judge in this case. It is everyone's right to live rich, happy, rich, unhappy, poor, unhappy, or poor-are not happy. Once again, the right of every person. And I do not have any authority to outlines with a black frame and white for example.

And there are harass me till this level, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross wrote in the Handbook For The Soul (Carlson and Shield, ed): "everything, even tragedy, is a gift in disguise". All things (including tragedy) real life prizes. Success and acclaim is motivating. Do not forget, the failure and invective is the strong medicine of life. Career which rose indeed reassure, and travel down exactly the right time to do the contemplation. Good health is the time to enjoy life, pain is a momentum to purify the soul. Got a chance to donate money, no money is a great opportunity to return to the essential nature.

In such circumstances, rich, happy, pain, tears of loss its pinch in life. What remains is only one: "the soul of walking, running and just walked ".

Author: Gede Prama

Blessed

"I just want to be happy," the phrase often heard when asked what became her goal. So, who do not want to be happy? If someone wants to be happy means he is not happy, then, why not be happy?

Maybe this is an answer that might appear:
"I would be happy if I succeed at it."
"I would be happy if it managed to marry him."
"How can you be happy if I lose USD 20 million?"
"How can you be happy if I had just been fired?"

and many sentences that may arise.

Did they forget?
"Verily We have given you a lot of favors."
[Kausar 108:1] We have indeed bestowed the Kausar* upon you (O dear Prophet Mohammed - peace and blessings be upon him). (*Infinite excellent qualities / the greatest number of followers / the sweet pond on the Day of Resurrection)


Yes, Allah has given us blessings, innumerable. But so many people are unhappy because of what he thought was the most delicious yet achieved. He was not happy because not only see what he has, but the blessings that God has given so much. Forget the blessings that have been received, the same is not grateful.

If we want to be happy, look at what we already have, the feeling of grace that Allah has given to us. Really, really a lot. We will not be able to count them.

"And if ye would count Allah's blessings, you can not specify the amount. Verily Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
[Nahl 16:18] And if you enumerate the favours of Allah, you will never be able to count them; indeed Allah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.
How many blessings that we have not been compared with that we have? How can we are not happy for the blessings that we yet have it?

Therefore, be grateful with what Allah has given us. Blessed.

By Grace