By: Shaykh Salih Al-Fauzan Fauzan
Preamble
Islam is a universal religion. Religion that covers all aspects of life. No one else matters in this life, but has been described. And no one had problems, but have been touched by Islamic values, although these problems seem minor and trivial. That is Islam, the religion spread mercy for all creatures.
In the case of marriage, Islam has been talking a lot. From the criteria for candidates seeking support life, to how to interact with him when he officially became a conditioned heart. Islam provides guidance, as well as Islam directs how the guide holding a wedding party who like fun, but still get a blessing and not infringe sunnah of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam, as well as a simple wedding but still there is a special attraction. So Islam teaches.
But this book is limited to discuss about the benefits of marriage, matters concerning the khitbah (woo), the ceremony, the pillars, and the terms and discussion of the wedding party or walimatul 'ursy. Hopefully we can take advantage of these discussions.
Preamble
Islam is a universal religion. Religion that covers all aspects of life. No one else matters in this life, but has been described. And no one had problems, but have been touched by Islamic values, although these problems seem minor and trivial. That is Islam, the religion spread mercy for all creatures.
In the case of marriage, Islam has been talking a lot. From the criteria for candidates seeking support life, to how to interact with him when he officially became a conditioned heart. Islam provides guidance, as well as Islam directs how the guide holding a wedding party who like fun, but still get a blessing and not infringe sunnah of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam, as well as a simple wedding but still there is a special attraction. So Islam teaches.
But this book is limited to discuss about the benefits of marriage, matters concerning the khitbah (woo), the ceremony, the pillars, and the terms and discussion of the wedding party or walimatul 'ursy. Hopefully we can take advantage of these discussions.
Marriage Benefits
Marriage has a tremendous benefit, as follows:
1. Permanent maintenance of human descent path, multiply the number of Muslims and Unbelievers daunted by the future generations who strive in Allah's way and defend his religion.
2. Maintain the honor and genitals of the forbidden fornication more destructive to the community.
3. Realization of the leadership of the husband over the wife in terms of providing a living and guarding him. Allah says (meaning):
"The man is a leader for women, because Allah has preferred They will (male) over another sebahagian (women) and because they (men) have spend of their property." (An Nisa ': 34)
4. Getting a calmness and tenderness for the husband and wife as well as the peace of their souls.
"And among His signs is that He created his wives for you from jenismu own, so you tend to be and feel at ease with him, and made him among you a sense of love and affection. Verily in this is truly there are signs for people who think "(Ar-Rum: 21).
5. Shield the public from the vicious behavior that can destroy morale and eliminate the honor.
6. Nasab and maintenance of kinship ties between one another and formed of a noble family full of love, a strong bond and mutual help in the truth.
7. Human uplift of life like an animal into a noble human life.
And many other great benefits with the wedding syar'i, noble and upright net based on the Qur'an and Sunnah.
Getting married is a bond syar'i which justifies the relationship between men and women, as the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Makes will about kindness to the ladies, they really like a prisoner in your side. You have justified their genitals with the sentence of God (the ceremony, important life). "
Marriage contract is a strong bond between husband and wife. Allah says (meaning):
"And they (the wife-wives) have taken from you a strong covenant." (An Nisa ': 21) the covenant (agreement) which requires that for married couples to carry out his promise.
Allah says (meaning):
"O ye who believe! Aqad-aqad fill it." (Al-Maidah: 1)
Marriage has a tremendous benefit, as follows:
1. Permanent maintenance of human descent path, multiply the number of Muslims and Unbelievers daunted by the future generations who strive in Allah's way and defend his religion.
2. Maintain the honor and genitals of the forbidden fornication more destructive to the community.
3. Realization of the leadership of the husband over the wife in terms of providing a living and guarding him. Allah says (meaning):
"The man is a leader for women, because Allah has preferred They will (male) over another sebahagian (women) and because they (men) have spend of their property." (An Nisa ': 34)
4. Getting a calmness and tenderness for the husband and wife as well as the peace of their souls.
"And among His signs is that He created his wives for you from jenismu own, so you tend to be and feel at ease with him, and made him among you a sense of love and affection. Verily in this is truly there are signs for people who think "(Ar-Rum: 21).
5. Shield the public from the vicious behavior that can destroy morale and eliminate the honor.
6. Nasab and maintenance of kinship ties between one another and formed of a noble family full of love, a strong bond and mutual help in the truth.
7. Human uplift of life like an animal into a noble human life.
And many other great benefits with the wedding syar'i, noble and upright net based on the Qur'an and Sunnah.
Getting married is a bond syar'i which justifies the relationship between men and women, as the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Makes will about kindness to the ladies, they really like a prisoner in your side. You have justified their genitals with the sentence of God (the ceremony, important life). "
Marriage contract is a strong bond between husband and wife. Allah says (meaning):
"And they (the wife-wives) have taken from you a strong covenant." (An Nisa ': 21) the covenant (agreement) which requires that for married couples to carry out his promise.
Allah says (meaning):
"O ye who believe! Aqad-aqad fill it." (Al-Maidah: 1)
Khitbah (woo)
Prophet said:"If one of you khitbah (woo) a woman, so if he can see what prompted him to marry her then do it" (Narrated by Ahmad and Abu Dawud)
In another hadith:
"Look at him, because it is more worthy to perpetuate between you two" (Narrated by AtTirmidzi, 1087)
This hadeeth indicates may see what usually appears in women who proposed without his knowledge and without seclusion (tandem) with it.
The scholars said: "Allowed for people who want to woo a woman who most likely received courtship, to see what is usually visible with no kholwat (alone) if it is safe from slander."
In the hadith Jabir, he said: "I (wish to) apply for a girl and then I hide to see it so I could see from her what pushed me to marry her, then I married her" (Narrated by Abu Dawood, no. 2082).
This hadeeth indicates that Jabir was not alone with the woman and the woman did not know if he was seen by Jaber. And it is not seen from the woman except those commonly seen from his body. This rukhsoh (relief) specifically for people who are likely to be accepted courtship. If the trouble to look at it, can send a woman who is believed to see the woman who proposed then told the woman who would proposed conditions.
Based on what was narrated that the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam sent Umm Sulaim to see a woman (Narrated by Ahmad).
Everyone who was asked to explain the condition or the peoposed suitor, mandatory for him to mention what is to him of deficiencies or other matters, and that's not including backbiting.
And forbidden woo with a clear expression (tashrih) to women who are in a period 'iddah (the waiting period, which can not be ruju' by their husbands or widowed husband, important life.) Like the phrase: "I want to marry you." Based on the word of Allah, the Exalted:
"And there is no sin for you woo women it with sarcasm" (Surah 2: 235)
And allowed satire in woo women who are in a period
'Iddah. For example with the phrase: "Truly I am very interested in
woman like you "or" Love is always there in my soul. "
The verse indicates illicit tashrih, as saying: "I want to marry you" because tashrih there is no other possibility except marriage. So should not give full expectations prior to their expiration 'Iddahnya.
Forbidden to woo her proposal other Muslim brothers. Any person who proposes marriage to a woman and accepted courtship, it is forbidden for others to woo women until he is allowed or has been abandoned. Based on the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam: "Let not a man proposes to womanwhich has proposed brother until she was married or had left him "(Narrated by Bukhari and Nasa'i).
In Muslim history is not lawful for a believer woo a woman who has dipinang brother until he left. " In the hadeeth of Ibn 'Umar: "Do you propose to a woman who has dipinang brother" (Agreed alaih). In Bukhari narrated: "Let not a man proposes to the above proposal of other men to leave her previous suitor, or by consent".
The hadiths are shown on the illicit proposal over the proposal of a Muslim brother, because it hurt the first suitor and cause animosity between the people and violate their rights. If the first was rejected suitor or suitors both permitted or she had left the woman, then allowed for a second suitor to woo the woman. In accordance with the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam: "Until he is allowed or has been abandoned". And this includes the honor of a Muslim and forbidden to destroy his honor.
Most people do not care about this, he advanced to woo a woman and she knows already that precedes propose her and has been accepted by the woman. Then he violated the rights of his brother and his brother are damaging proposal has been received. This is a deed that is forbidden and inappropriate for people who come forward to woo women who have been preceded by his brother to be accepted and not punished, also got sin very large. So it mandatory for a Muslim to consider this issue and protect the rights of fellow Muslim brother. Indeed a very large right of a Muslim over another Muslim brother. Do not woo women who already proposed brother and do not buy goods in a bid not to hurt his brother and his brother with all kinds of painful things.
Akad Nikah, Pillars and Terms & Condition
Recomended when going to the ceremony, starting with the previous sermon sermon called Ibn Mas'ud (khutbatul female pilgrim to Mekah, important life) submitted by the prospective groom or other person among the audience. And its lafadz as follows:
"Verily, all praise be to Allah. We praise Him, ask His help and forgiveness, and we seek refuge in Allah from the evil of ourselves and the evil deeds of our business. Any person who shall be guided by God, then nothing can be misleading and those who are misled by God, then nothing could give him instructions. I bear witness that no eligible prayed but Allah, no partner for Him, and I testify that Muhammad is His slave and His messenger. " (Narrated by Imam Tirmidhi menghasankan five and this hadith).
After that read the three verses of the Qur'an as follows:
"O ye who believe! taqwa to Allah with His true taqwa to Him, and do not ever you die, but in an Islamic religious state." (Al 'Imran: 102).
"O mankind fear your Lord who created you from a single self, and from it God created his wife, and instead of Allah breed both men and women that much. And fear Allah, that with (use) his name you ask each other one another, and (guard) the relationship of friendship. Verily Allah always keep and watch you. " (Surah An Nisaa ': 1)
"O ye who believe, fear Allah and say the right words, Allah will fix for you deeds-deeds and forgive you your sins. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, then surely he has got a big victory. " (Surat al-Ahzab: 70-71).
As for the pillars of the ceremony there are 3, namely:
1. The existence of two prospective brides, which is free of barriers invalidity of marriage, for example: women are not among those who are forbidden to marry (mahram), either because senasab, sepersusuan or as it is in the 'iddah, or other reasons. It is also not allowed if the prospective bride male infidel while a Muslim bride. And another reason syar'i barriers.
2. The existence of consent is lafadz spoken by a guardian or replace it by telling the prospective groom: "I marry you with Fulanah".
3. The presence of lafadz qobul spoken by the prospective groom or person who has been given permission to represent him by saying: "I accept illegitimate".
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyya and his student, Ibn al Qoyyim, reinforces the opinion that the marriage was legal in all lafadz that shows the meaning of marriage, is not limited by lafadz Ankahtuka or Jawwaztuka.
People who restrict lafadz Ankahtuka or married with two lafadz Jawwaztuka because it contained in the Qur'an. As Allah the Exalted:
"So when Zaid had ended the purposes of his wife (divorce), We marries you with him" (Surat al-Ahzab: 37)
Also he said the other:
"And do not marry women who have been married by the father" (Surah An-Nisa ': 22)
But the events mentioned in the verse does not mean restriction with these lafadz (tazwij or marriage). And Allaah knows best. And the marriage contract for people who can mute with the words or gestures can be understood. In the event of consent and qobul, then the marriage contract was valid even though it is pronounced with a joke without intending to get married (if requirements are met and there is no legal barrier to his contract, important life.) Because the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"There are 3 things that if done playfully then become real and, if done sincerely then become too real. Ie: divorce, marriage and ruju '"(Narrated by Tirmidhi, no. 1184).
The conditions of validity of marriage there are 4, namely:
1. Specify (ta'yin) each the bride and groom and not enough to simply say: "I marry you with my child" when having more than one daughter. Or by saying: "I marry my daughter with your boys" when there is more than one child lakilakinya. Ta'yin can be done by pointing directly to the prospective bride, or mention his name, or by its nature it can be distinguished from the others.
2. Willingness second bride. So is not valid if one of them being forced to marry, as the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah:
"Widows should not be married so he asked his orders, and the girl was not married, so asked his permission." They asked: "O Messenger of Allah, how his permission?". He replied: "When he was silent." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
Unless the young bride who has not baligh then his guardian should marry him without permission.
3. Who wed bride is the guardian. Based on the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam: "No valid marriage except
with a guardian "(Narrated by Imam which five except Nasa'i).
When a woman marry without a guardian herself then illegitimate illegitimate. Among the silver lining, because it is the cause of adultery and women are usually shallow in thinking for the most serious benefits to choosing something for himself. As word of God in the Qur'an about marriage problems, addressed to the trustee:
"And wed the people who alone among you" (Surat An-Nuur: 32)
"Do you (the guardian) to prevent them" (Surat al-Baqoroh: 232)
and other verses.
Guardian for a woman: her father, then who is charged by his father, then the father of the father continues to the top, then her man and grandson of son continues downwards, and brother by one venter, and then his brother from one father, and nephew of the brothers from one father later by one venter, and her uncle who by one venter with his father, then her uncle who sebapak with his father, then her uncle, and close relatives such her nasab descendant heirs, then people which liberate her (if he had a slave, important life), then the judge as guardian.
4. The existence of a witness in the ceremony, as the hadith of the Prophet narrated by Jabir:
"No legitimate a marriage without a wali and two witnesses are fair (good faith, important life)." (Narrated by al-Bayhaqi from Imran and from Aisha, hadeeth, see Saheeh al-Jamius Shaghir by Shaykh Al-Albani no. 7557 .)
So marriage is not valid except in the presence of two witnesses fair.
Imam Tirmidhi said: "That is what is understood by the companions of the Prophet and the tabi'in, and the scholars after them. They said: "No valid marriage without witnesses". And there is no dispute in this matter among them. Except from the Ahlu ilmi uta'akhirin
(Later) ".
Walimatul 'Urs (Marriage party)
Walimah originally meant something and the gathering of something perfect. It is said لجرلا لموأ _ _ _ (Awlamar Rajulu) if collected her character and intelligence. Then the meaning is used for naming the meal-feeding in the gathering of the bride wedding reception caused by men, and women in matrimony. And not called walimah for other than a wedding reception in terms of language and terminology fuqoha (the clergy). Though there are many types of events meals made with certain causes, but each has its own naming.
Legal walimatul 'Urs is Sunnah according to jumhur scholars. Some scholars because of the command requires walimah Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam and is obligatory to fulfill the invitation walimah. Rasulullah sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to' Abdurrahman ibn 'Awf radiyallahu' anhu when he mengkhabarkan that she had been married
"Please walimah although only by slaughtering a goat" (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
Besides that, walimah which as above can not be separated from the ugliness and arrogance as well as the gathering of people who normally can not be separated from badness. Walimah Sometimes this is done in hotels that causes the women ignored the more clothing that covers the genitals, loss of sense of shame, women mixing with men who could be this as a major cause of the decline punishment from God.
Sometimes also interspersed within the party a fun music and singing artists, as well as photographers to photograph the women and the bride and groom, besides spending a lot of property without avail even in ways that deteriorate and cause damage. So taqwa to God, O people who like this and was afraid of the punishment of God.
Allah says:
"And how many a (population) which We have destroyed the country, which already have fun in life" (Surah Al-Qoshosh: 58)
"Eat and drink, and be not excessive. Verily Allah does not like people who exaggerated "(Al-A'rof: 31)
"Eat and drink sustenance (given) God, and do not roam the earth to do mischief" (Al-Baqoroh: 60)
And the verses relating to this are many and obvious.
Mandatory for those who are invited to attend walimatul 'Urs if fulfilled the following conditions:
1. Walimah is a first walimah if its walimah done repeatedly. And not obliged to come to walimah hereinafter, based on the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Walimah first is the right (in accordance with the shari'ah, important life), walimah second is good, and the third is walimah riya 'and sum'ah" (Narrated by Abu Dawood and others).
Taqiyuddin Sheikh said: "Forbidden to eat and slaughter that exceeds the limit the next day even though society has become a habit or for happy families, and perpetrators must be punished"
2. That invite is a Muslim
3. That invites not included experts who blatantly immoral conduct kemaksiatannya, which they were obliged to be shunned.
4. Invitation directed to him specifically, not a general invitation.
5. No badness in walimah such as the wine (liquor), music, songs and singers, as is the case in the event walimah now.
If these requirements are met, then the invitation must meet walimah, as the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Bad-bad food is the cuisine walimah that poor people not invited but rich people are invited. (Although emikian) he who does not meet the invitation walimah means she disobedience to Allah and His Messenger. " (Narrated by Muslim).
And recommended to announce the wedding and show it as word of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Announce the wedding." And in another narration: "Show the weddings" (Narrated by Ibn Majah)
Recommended also beating the tambourine as the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Distinguishing between the singing and music is halal and the haram is singing and tambourines in a wedding ceremony" (Narrated by Nasa'i, Ahmad and Tirmidhi. And menghasankannya Tirmidhi).
source: http://ahlussunnah.web.id/11/02/2010/bekal-bekal-menuju-pernikahan-sesuai-sunnah-nabi
"Verily, all praise be to Allah. We praise Him, ask His help and forgiveness, and we seek refuge in Allah from the evil of ourselves and the evil deeds of our business. Any person who shall be guided by God, then nothing can be misleading and those who are misled by God, then nothing could give him instructions. I bear witness that no eligible prayed but Allah, no partner for Him, and I testify that Muhammad is His slave and His messenger. " (Narrated by Imam Tirmidhi menghasankan five and this hadith).
After that read the three verses of the Qur'an as follows:
"O ye who believe! taqwa to Allah with His true taqwa to Him, and do not ever you die, but in an Islamic religious state." (Al 'Imran: 102).
"O mankind fear your Lord who created you from a single self, and from it God created his wife, and instead of Allah breed both men and women that much. And fear Allah, that with (use) his name you ask each other one another, and (guard) the relationship of friendship. Verily Allah always keep and watch you. " (Surah An Nisaa ': 1)
"O ye who believe, fear Allah and say the right words, Allah will fix for you deeds-deeds and forgive you your sins. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, then surely he has got a big victory. " (Surat al-Ahzab: 70-71).
As for the pillars of the ceremony there are 3, namely:
1. The existence of two prospective brides, which is free of barriers invalidity of marriage, for example: women are not among those who are forbidden to marry (mahram), either because senasab, sepersusuan or as it is in the 'iddah, or other reasons. It is also not allowed if the prospective bride male infidel while a Muslim bride. And another reason syar'i barriers.
2. The existence of consent is lafadz spoken by a guardian or replace it by telling the prospective groom: "I marry you with Fulanah".
3. The presence of lafadz qobul spoken by the prospective groom or person who has been given permission to represent him by saying: "I accept illegitimate".
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyya and his student, Ibn al Qoyyim, reinforces the opinion that the marriage was legal in all lafadz that shows the meaning of marriage, is not limited by lafadz Ankahtuka or Jawwaztuka.
People who restrict lafadz Ankahtuka or married with two lafadz Jawwaztuka because it contained in the Qur'an. As Allah the Exalted:
"So when Zaid had ended the purposes of his wife (divorce), We marries you with him" (Surat al-Ahzab: 37)
Also he said the other:
"And do not marry women who have been married by the father" (Surah An-Nisa ': 22)
But the events mentioned in the verse does not mean restriction with these lafadz (tazwij or marriage). And Allaah knows best. And the marriage contract for people who can mute with the words or gestures can be understood. In the event of consent and qobul, then the marriage contract was valid even though it is pronounced with a joke without intending to get married (if requirements are met and there is no legal barrier to his contract, important life.) Because the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"There are 3 things that if done playfully then become real and, if done sincerely then become too real. Ie: divorce, marriage and ruju '"(Narrated by Tirmidhi, no. 1184).
The conditions of validity of marriage there are 4, namely:
1. Specify (ta'yin) each the bride and groom and not enough to simply say: "I marry you with my child" when having more than one daughter. Or by saying: "I marry my daughter with your boys" when there is more than one child lakilakinya. Ta'yin can be done by pointing directly to the prospective bride, or mention his name, or by its nature it can be distinguished from the others.
2. Willingness second bride. So is not valid if one of them being forced to marry, as the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah:
"Widows should not be married so he asked his orders, and the girl was not married, so asked his permission." They asked: "O Messenger of Allah, how his permission?". He replied: "When he was silent." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
Unless the young bride who has not baligh then his guardian should marry him without permission.
3. Who wed bride is the guardian. Based on the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam: "No valid marriage except
with a guardian "(Narrated by Imam which five except Nasa'i).
When a woman marry without a guardian herself then illegitimate illegitimate. Among the silver lining, because it is the cause of adultery and women are usually shallow in thinking for the most serious benefits to choosing something for himself. As word of God in the Qur'an about marriage problems, addressed to the trustee:
"And wed the people who alone among you" (Surat An-Nuur: 32)
"Do you (the guardian) to prevent them" (Surat al-Baqoroh: 232)
and other verses.
Guardian for a woman: her father, then who is charged by his father, then the father of the father continues to the top, then her man and grandson of son continues downwards, and brother by one venter, and then his brother from one father, and nephew of the brothers from one father later by one venter, and her uncle who by one venter with his father, then her uncle who sebapak with his father, then her uncle, and close relatives such her nasab descendant heirs, then people which liberate her (if he had a slave, important life), then the judge as guardian.
4. The existence of a witness in the ceremony, as the hadith of the Prophet narrated by Jabir:
"No legitimate a marriage without a wali and two witnesses are fair (good faith, important life)." (Narrated by al-Bayhaqi from Imran and from Aisha, hadeeth, see Saheeh al-Jamius Shaghir by Shaykh Al-Albani no. 7557 .)
So marriage is not valid except in the presence of two witnesses fair.
Imam Tirmidhi said: "That is what is understood by the companions of the Prophet and the tabi'in, and the scholars after them. They said: "No valid marriage without witnesses". And there is no dispute in this matter among them. Except from the Ahlu ilmi uta'akhirin
(Later) ".
Walimatul 'Urs (Marriage party)
Walimah originally meant something and the gathering of something perfect. It is said لجرلا لموأ _ _ _ (Awlamar Rajulu) if collected her character and intelligence. Then the meaning is used for naming the meal-feeding in the gathering of the bride wedding reception caused by men, and women in matrimony. And not called walimah for other than a wedding reception in terms of language and terminology fuqoha (the clergy). Though there are many types of events meals made with certain causes, but each has its own naming.
Legal walimatul 'Urs is Sunnah according to jumhur scholars. Some scholars because of the command requires walimah Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam and is obligatory to fulfill the invitation walimah. Rasulullah sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to' Abdurrahman ibn 'Awf radiyallahu' anhu when he mengkhabarkan that she had been married
"Please walimah although only by slaughtering a goat" (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
Besides that, walimah which as above can not be separated from the ugliness and arrogance as well as the gathering of people who normally can not be separated from badness. Walimah Sometimes this is done in hotels that causes the women ignored the more clothing that covers the genitals, loss of sense of shame, women mixing with men who could be this as a major cause of the decline punishment from God.
Sometimes also interspersed within the party a fun music and singing artists, as well as photographers to photograph the women and the bride and groom, besides spending a lot of property without avail even in ways that deteriorate and cause damage. So taqwa to God, O people who like this and was afraid of the punishment of God.
Allah says:
"And how many a (population) which We have destroyed the country, which already have fun in life" (Surah Al-Qoshosh: 58)
"Eat and drink, and be not excessive. Verily Allah does not like people who exaggerated "(Al-A'rof: 31)
"Eat and drink sustenance (given) God, and do not roam the earth to do mischief" (Al-Baqoroh: 60)
And the verses relating to this are many and obvious.
Mandatory for those who are invited to attend walimatul 'Urs if fulfilled the following conditions:
1. Walimah is a first walimah if its walimah done repeatedly. And not obliged to come to walimah hereinafter, based on the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Walimah first is the right (in accordance with the shari'ah, important life), walimah second is good, and the third is walimah riya 'and sum'ah" (Narrated by Abu Dawood and others).
Taqiyuddin Sheikh said: "Forbidden to eat and slaughter that exceeds the limit the next day even though society has become a habit or for happy families, and perpetrators must be punished"
2. That invite is a Muslim
3. That invites not included experts who blatantly immoral conduct kemaksiatannya, which they were obliged to be shunned.
4. Invitation directed to him specifically, not a general invitation.
5. No badness in walimah such as the wine (liquor), music, songs and singers, as is the case in the event walimah now.
If these requirements are met, then the invitation must meet walimah, as the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Bad-bad food is the cuisine walimah that poor people not invited but rich people are invited. (Although emikian) he who does not meet the invitation walimah means she disobedience to Allah and His Messenger. " (Narrated by Muslim).
And recommended to announce the wedding and show it as word of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Announce the wedding." And in another narration: "Show the weddings" (Narrated by Ibn Majah)
Recommended also beating the tambourine as the words of the Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
"Distinguishing between the singing and music is halal and the haram is singing and tambourines in a wedding ceremony" (Narrated by Nasa'i, Ahmad and Tirmidhi. And menghasankannya Tirmidhi).
source: http://ahlussunnah.web.id/11/02/2010/bekal-bekal-menuju-pernikahan-sesuai-sunnah-nabi
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